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Extended Family Members’ Grief
What do you do if you have family members or friends who are not supportive of your decision to adopt? This can be really tough. On the one hand, you love your family and friends and really want them...
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Lack of Support After the Adoption
As I mentioned in my last couple of posts, my grandparents were not supportive of our decision to adopt, but when they held my beautiful little baby in their arms for the first time, they embraced him...
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Failure to Stand Up to Unsupportive People
If you refuse to stand up to family and friends who are unsupportive of your decision to adopt, your child will be the one who suffers. Children who are adopted in the best of circumstances will have...
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How to Stand up to Unsupportive People
In most cases, family and friends who are unsupportive of adoption are motivated by fear of you being hurt. These people love you dearly, and they believe they see a pitfall that you are not seeing....
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Lack of Support: Other Areas
In this series, I have been discussing issues surrounding lack of support from family and friends when you choose to adopt. Most of what I have been discussing involves the way that your family and...
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Deciding to Adopt a Child: Support of Friends and Family
When you are considering whether to adopt a child, one factor to consider is how much support you will receive from family and friends. The adoption process is grueling, and you will need to lean on...
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Deciding to Adopt: Dealing with Unsupportive People
During my series on Deciding to Adopt a Child, two readers left the following comments: You know, Faith, the funny thing is that my family (me, my husband and son) get all those attitudes from others...
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Don’t Be Discouraged by Naysayers
Inevitably when you choose to adopt a child, regardless of circumstances, there will be those who disagree. Some of them will disagree loudly and often. They will list the multitude of reasons why it...
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You Aren’t Responsible for Their Issues
On a recent post of mine about funding your adoption plans, I received a nasty email. To paraphrase, the disgruntled reader suggested that instead of finding ways to fund an adoption, the parents...
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Foster Care: Understanding
Both the American and British foster systems initially seek, in my experience, to enable birth parents to regain custody of their children. There are cases in which it seems clear to me that there is...
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Not My Problem
A few months ago, an uncle called to catch up and see how my daughters and I were doing. I let him know well the girls were doing in school and how much I enjoyed my job. I then gave him an update on...
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